From another journal...

Before you read this, it's sparked by an entry from mertuil specifically
http://www.livejournal.com/users/mertuil/249851.html#cutid1


Backround history: Just ...survived? ended up with? left? a tumultuous 3 year on/off relationship almost with a marraige. Still in pain, still in love.

The mechanism of surviving the bitterness at the ending of a relationship (or the changing of one) is to remove the focus. Put that focus, the person who for so long has filled the role of dreamcatcher or fantasy ghod or "wifetobe" for you, away from you--physically, mentally, spiritually--until you can say goodbye to the dream person (imagery stolen from

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