Knowing that other meaning of retribution helps :) Perhaps Reparation is a word that's more understandable to the populace at large? (and it's still a "tion"!)
Knowing that making things right *within yourself* is a part of that is important. Letting go of the past and looking toward the future is also important. Holding on to the lessons learned from the past is part of the way to go forward, though, and a part of that is remembering the feelings and the insights gained from them. Obviously easier said than done. I think that you are wise to try to take things slowly, and to try to give yourself ample opportunity to grieve and reflect instead of leaping once more into the fray without time to catch your breath and catch up to yourself.
Contemplating and possibly revising your goals and ideas is such a good idea...not that you necessarily actually need to change anything...just to give yourself the opportunity so to do should it seem appropriate.
Maybe don't say "end"...maybe say "transition"...... Your relationship is not so much over, as it is changed to a new state. Accepting the reality of that new state seems to be the task currently at hand. Okay...enough blither from me....gotta go study for that final I have in an hour :)
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Knowing that making things right *within yourself* is a part of that is important. Letting go of the past and looking toward the future is also important. Holding on to the lessons learned from the past is part of the way to go forward, though, and a part of that is remembering the feelings and the insights gained from them. Obviously easier said than done. I think that you are wise to try to take things slowly, and to try to give yourself ample opportunity to grieve and reflect instead of leaping once more into the fray without time to catch your breath and catch up to yourself.
Contemplating and possibly revising your goals and ideas is such a good idea...not that you necessarily actually need to change anything...just to give yourself the opportunity so to do should it seem appropriate.
Maybe don't say "end"...maybe say "transition"......
Your relationship is not so much over, as it is changed to a new state. Accepting the reality of that new state seems to be the task currently at hand. Okay...enough blither from me....gotta go study for that final I have in an hour :)