Why?

[learnteach]

The question that always arises at the end of any event (life event as opposed to social event, I'm pretty clear on social events) is Why? It's strange, how deep this question can take you. It's where the human ability to phantasy the future spins out the strongest, as you build various "Because" possibilities going back into hazy memory or forward into relived feared horror.

And the question usually resolves as, "Why does this hurt so?"

"Because."

Comments

Because.

[madbaker.livejournal.com]

Because we care. Because we're human and we invest our feelings trying to make relationships work. And when they don't, we pull back our scorched fingers from the fire, muttering "never again", knowing that we lie as we do so.

Which doesn't make it hurt any less.

[noressa.livejournal.com]

Why does this hurt so? Because it was an emotional investment. When you get close to someone you choose to risk also being hurt by this person. But it's a risk that you have to choose to take. Once you invest dreams, time, energy, love, a future plan with a person, when it's taken away... you don't want it to be. And the hole of where it used to be wants to be filled... And that's a large part of where it hurts. There was something there and now it's gone. It's a loss... And losses hurt.

There will be more things that will fill that space. There will be more people, more friends... But it will never be the same. And somedays, it hurts more then others.

[farmount.livejournal.com]

Well, I think the first two comments summed things up fairly well, so I'm not going to do a "ditto" response here. When I was a young teenager and suffering from heartbreak, I asked an older friend if such things got easier as one got older. The response was "No, it doesn't hurt any less, but you learn to deal with it better."

Hang in there. Just because it hurts now doesn't mean that it will hurt all the time, and that you should never try again.

It hurts...

[greylady.livejournal.com]

because you feel. It hurts because humans are social beings, and respond to social interactions the same way that we respond to physical ones. Rejection hurts because we don't want to be rejected... or pushed away. The alternative is to not feel... personally, I'll take the pain if it's the price for the good things.

*hug*