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learnteach ([personal profile] learnteach) wrote2003-11-03 09:43 am

Why?

The question that always arises at the end of any event (life event as opposed to social event, I'm pretty clear on social events) is Why? It's strange, how deep this question can take you. It's where the human ability to phantasy the future spins out the strongest, as you build various "Because" possibilities going back into hazy memory or forward into relived feared horror.

And the question usually resolves as, "Why does this hurt so?"

"Because."

[identity profile] noressa.livejournal.com 2003-11-03 11:14 am (UTC)(link)
Why does this hurt so? Because it was an emotional investment. When you get close to someone you choose to risk also being hurt by this person. But it's a risk that you have to choose to take. Once you invest dreams, time, energy, love, a future plan with a person, when it's taken away... you don't want it to be. And the hole of where it used to be wants to be filled... And that's a large part of where it hurts. There was something there and now it's gone. It's a loss... And losses hurt.

There will be more things that will fill that space. There will be more people, more friends... But it will never be the same. And somedays, it hurts more then others.