Next Phase
Oct. 29th, 2003 03:02 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
learnteachShe gave me the ring back today. I told her to keep it as a friendship ring. She told me that this was the third time we've tried, and she tried so hard it felt like it was breaking her. I feel...relieved. She's right. We are too different on many values to marry; when we look at what we want, we see different things. I feel sad, she's really neat and I want her in my life...but my life is big and complicated and she never really wanted to be in it anyway. I feel mad; she didn't make the effort to get to know my friends...but it's been a difficult set of years for her. Not too easy for me, in retrospect.
So now, like WingedCorset, I need to look at myself outside of a relationship and see how to improve.
So now, like WingedCorset, I need to look at myself outside of a relationship and see how to improve.
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Date: 2003-10-29 03:46 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2003-10-29 04:08 pm (UTC)*hugs*
practically content-less, but...
Date: 2003-10-29 05:27 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2003-10-29 08:52 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2003-10-30 08:32 am (UTC)I've been trailblazing this trek of self-discovery for almost a year. Y'all are late comers =)
-D
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Date: 2003-10-30 12:44 pm (UTC)1) It takes 18 months or 1/2 the length of the relationship to get the needed distance to move on. It is a grief thing.
2) Who you are as yourself is who you are. The chemicals in your blood when you fall in love only last long enough (about 6 months) to allow you to shift your habits to include another person.
3) You are self-aware, although I wonder if you listen to yourself.
But dude, you are my friend, and I will help you hide the bodies.
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Date: 2003-11-02 09:53 am (UTC)above all else you are my friend........
I' ve been there
Date: 2003-11-27 08:09 pm (UTC)We love you.
SMOR